Boss Babe Collaboration

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I can’t tell you how many Boss Babe, Diva friends I have in my life that I love and adore. From pro-dancers, to real estate moguls, from farm owners to online boutique mavens. The Boss Babe movement is real and the friendships and collaborative goals are mega!

I also have an incredible amount of young women seeking advice, coaching, counseling and mentorship in the business and entrepreneurial space.

I’ve created a mentorship space for Artists and Musicians. My husband and I have opened a physical studio for in person mentorship, meetings and counsel. I also have an online community of beautiful women who are forging relationships with each other in the area of friendship, purpose building and collaboration.

As we spend time together, we find the reality that all Boss Babes come short in some area. We have this way of doing what major corporations do on a much smaller budget. We look the part, act the part and truly are the part. With our creativity and our drive we are able to take $25 dollars and make it look like a $10,000 campaign. With the way our minds study and our hearts align with our calling, we are able to make humble beginnings look like a mogul status.

There is one thing however, that I find more often than any other thing in Boss Babes. There’s this idea that everyone we’re looking at has it all. The photo’s we post, the captions we create. We really are amazing human beings, but in the same we we have shortcomings, we seem to believe everyone else is just perfect! That fear of not being as special or “perfect” as the ladies we watch, gets in the way of so much. We fear letting our guard down. When it comes time to join forces with the women we think so highly of, we clam up! No matter how many people I meet, there seems to be one common factor missing from most! The art of collaboration!

For some reason, we have this amazing knack for DIY. We can make things happen alone, but when it comes to bringing in new minds and help to go to our next level, we just can’t fix our lips to say, “I need your help”. If you’re a part of my latest online offering “The Sistership” then you’ve already began to notice how important I deem friendship and relationship between each other. We must step outside of our comfort zone and create together. It’s what builds us. It’s what grows us. Both the mentor and the mentee. The teacher and the student. The Boss Babe and the Boss Babe!

We don’t have the millions of dollars in the bank that we assume everyone else does, so we don’t even put our requests out there. We press towards the mark and we never come to full expansion because we ask not.

In this piece, I’d like to share 3 tools to use in “Boss Babe Collaboration”. I’ve used them over the years and I’ve seen them be used by other amazing moguls! I’ll share a few behind the scenes moments of what I’ve experienced in my life. I pray this encourages each of you as you push forward in your Bossy endeavors.

Bossy Raw Ingredients

Do you have an amazing singing voice? You want a record deal or a studio session. You want someone to manage you or become your agent. Master what you are presenting. Sure you have a nice hair style. Yes you dress well. Of course you have a great set of abs and boy is that a pretty guitar, but are you ear training regularly? Are you sitting with a voice coach or spending that extra cash on new shoes.

If you aren’t mastering what you’re presenting, when the opportunity comes and it’s time to show up for the “next level”, you won’t pass the test.

The truth is, even with all the glitz and glam, branding and big talk, products come down to their raw ingredients. If your raw ingredients can’t pass the test then stop dressing them up and looking for the come up. Master what you’re presenting. Be the best you can be at it. The fluff will come but first, you’ve gotta have epic raw ingredients.

Match her bossy hustle

If you want help and you have an amazing offering that would go to its next level with the endorsement of someone else, be sure that you are showing that someone else how they will benefit from standing next to your offering.

So what, you don’t have money. Bosses can see the value in collaboration OUTSIDE OF MONEY! A real boss can look at a situation and say, “I can benefit from being in this room, now how do I get invited?” The problem is, the sister with the access to the room is too afraid to invite other bosses in! What do you have access to that may be greater than monetary value to someone? Can you list 5 things that will benefit the other person if they join with you?

Do you have unique demographics? Will joining with you enhance the other persons base? Maybe they’ll be able to sell their products at your event? Maybe they’ll have the opportunity to learn a skill that they wouldn’t learn otherwise.

Get these benefits written down and typed out. Be able to share a letter of interest with whoever you’re pursuing. Show them at least five things that will benefit them by joining forces with you.


I can’t tell you how many times people have said, “I’d like to hire you, but I don’t have the fee”. How many of those people knew people I didn’t know that I’d love to be introduced to? How many of those people want me to come to a country I’ve never been to but wanted to travel to? How many of those people could introduce me to an audience I’ve been wanting to meet? How about this? How many of those people did I just wish to be pals with?

Sometimes opportunities are bigger than money. If you have a unique benefit, mention it! Talk up your brand. Talk up your audience. Talk up your past accomplishments. What has your business done for YOU that it can do for your potential COLLABORATOR?


don’t assume (don’t be “bossy”)

When you’re asking for things from others, beware! Sometimes they don’t want what you’re offering them for reasons you just can’t see. Don’t be discouraged and don’t get bossy! I can’t tell you the amount of times people have shouted my team down trying to get something from us that we simply didn’t have!

Sometimes Boss Babes don’t actually have what you’re asking for. In the same way your Instagram looks like you have a professional photographer taking all your pics. You look like a pro-makeup artist does your make up all the time. You look like your bank account might be on 10! Looks can be deceiving, not always on purpose, but just because, you’ve assumed.

Many of the bosses we look at are working long hours, pulling double shifts, going to school while they hustle and even raising a family behind the scenes. Sometimes we may be asking for something they genuinely don’t have.

“Hey Sis, can you make a speech at so and so high school?”... sure she’s a YouTube icon, but maybe she’s introverted and only talks to cameras.

“Hey Love, can you donate $400 to my Thanks Giving turkey charity?” ...sure, she’s a finance savings expert, but how do you know she’s not saving her own money and doesn’t have more than the $400 she’s saving?


“Hey Girl Hey! Can you fly to South Dakota, to talk to teen moms about getting an education?”... I’m sure she would LOVE to do that but how do you know she can afford a flight and a hotel to talk to those teens?

When you’re asking things of people, don’t assume they have everything they need, to be available for you. Sometimes, sure their heart is in the right place. Absolutely they’re a nice person. If you ask and they simply can’t be available for you, hold on to their number. If it’s a divine connection, take a second chance later down the line after you’ve taken the time to think about the opportunity you provided. Don’t be afraid to ask WHY someone can’t do something. Your eyes may be opened.

I remember when I first started my record label 5 years ago. People assumed I was looking to sign new artists. I was literally receiving emails with music, kids were stopping me in the streets to sing for me. Parents were pulling my arm asking me for something I genuinely didn’t have.

At the time I was just learning how to run a label, how much money it would cost to record an album independently and what issues I might face as I distribute or release music. I was in no position to experiment my Record Label CEO skills on a new artist. I had to go first before I could sign anyone.

I’ve learned a lot since then. I’ve developed a passion to teach entrepreneurs what it takes to run a label, a business and just a lifestyle brand. I’ve created online courses to teach young people what owning a label and being an independent artist actually looks like. Before, they assumed what I had and then asked for it. They thought I was just saying no because I was holding on to something I had. Little did they understand. I actually didn’t have what they were wanted. Now, I’ve created tools to teach them what they’re asking for. When they ask why, I can take them to school. It’s okay to ask why. You never know what you’ll learn.

Don’t assume.


By sharpening your offering, benefiting another Boss Babe and keeping assumptions at bay, you broaden your chances of collaboration.


My biggest piece of advice here truly is, DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK. Get your ducks in a row. Gather your assets and present you OPPORTUNITY with confidence. Tell them what YOU have. Be honest about what it means to collaborate with you. Have respect for the people you reach out to and always remember that people need people. EVERYONE wants relationship, friendship and collaboration. You will meet your connection. You will perfect your presentation and you will be well received. Timing is everything. Be patient with people. Be patient with yourself. Most of all, be patient with the process.

A Fellow Boss Babe,

CM

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What is a Hit Record? (...and other questions that kill the indie spirit)

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I hear this question a lot. I hate it. It’s sad actually. The idea that one song is better than another, or one voice is more special. The idea that one person overshadows another or one talent is more important. 

The truth is, there is a thing called popular. While popularity does require much talent and discipline, it requires a social life that most people couldn’t have if they owned an airline, all of the worlds clubs and VIP access to every award show on the planet. 

The truth is, many different kinds of talents rise to the height of mass media in due season. The trick is, staying social enough for your particular talent to be seen at the right time. 

Many complain about the sound of slurred lyrics and concepts of sex, drugs and partying. This sound, isn’t new. It was perfected in the seventies with sweaty sex symbols, crack, glitter and words that were never quite found in the dictionary. 

Take a moment to look back to the Jazz, be-bop era, when instead of words, creative combinations of jibberish were combined and called “scat”.  Someone thought that was ridiculous.  Now people refer to is as classic. We judge what is popular, when we aren’t what is. A hit record is simply what is popular at the time. Music is cyclical. What you love most will come back around. 

My advice? Continue to sharpen your gift. Continue to prune and cultivate it. Learn the ins and outs of the music industry. Pay close attention to the times but don’t give the times too much heart. Everything changes, and everything has a season. 

What you have inside of you is a hit. Perfect it. Master it. Make it the absolute best it can be. When it's time for you to share your offering with the audience divinely chosen for you, you’ll be well groomed and well prepared. What rises to the top, are those who were prepared at the bottom. Be your authentic best where you are. When your’re ready, reveal yourself again and again. Your truth will resonate, maybe just one person at a time will understand, but you’ll discover your niche in due time if you stay true.

Authenticity is the key to true discovery. Once you’ve truly tapped into who you are and what your life experience offers your art, you’ll communicate it and create around it. 

Keep looking within. Keep refining your gift. When YOU believe in YOU and are brave enough to bet on yourself with reckless abandon, you’ll hit exactly where you’re supposed to. How many artist came out and you looked at them sideways while they performed with such conviction and confidence. It’s never about being better than the rest, it’s about being your best authentic self. 

Be so well gifted ones, 

Chrisette Michele

P.S. - Join the Online Authentic Writers Course. Class begins May 21st. Enrollment is happening now.  Click the link below to learn more and surround yourself with a group of writers who are all living from that authentic place.

Get Hot In Your City!

Hey Chris! I’ve got a question!

I love answering your questions. It’s one of my favorite things to do! Yesterday, I went live on the RHU instagram page and answered a question. This is one of the most typical questions my team and I receive. I believe whole-heartedly that if you can take the answers below to heart, you will reach your dreams of success much faster. Take the time to fully read and study out the answer. Create a plan around it and get ready to see more success than you ever have. 

So, here’s the Q: Where Do I Start?

I know this question sounds multi-faceted at first, but to be honest, I completely understand the feeling of wondering which way to turn as you look for a place to share your talent. You see amazing talent on TV, hear it on the radio and you wonder, “When will it be my turn?”.

Here’s the deal, as easy and glamorous as it looks on the big screen, there is one awesome universal factor that can help ANY up and coming artist find their way. 

The Answer: GET HOT IN YOUR CITY

In the New RHU Indie Artist Coaching Program the first module is called “Be Your City’s Finest”. I believe that it is paramount to get your city excited about you before you expect the world to get excited about you. You’ll never hear a rapper on the radio, and not know where he’s from by the end of his interview or a few of his songs. Artists get their city to rally around them BEFORE they ask the world to support them. 

You want a chorus of supporters around you. When labels and recording executives look for talent to invest in, they look for cities that are proud of their talent. You will attract serious attention to your brand if you take pride in being your cities finest. Here are five ways to get your city excited about you.

  1. Open Mics - Open mics are a local way to share your talent with your community and work on your performance craft. Here you can get a gauge of what works for you on stage with out spending loads of money. The most important part of performing at open mic nights, is what happens off the stage. Be sure to meet people after you perform. Connect with the folks who enjoyed you. Follow them on social media and make sure they follow you. If you have a mailing list, make sure to enter their email into it. I love MailChimps app. You can enter people into your list right from your phone. STAY IN CONTACT WITH THE PEOPLE YOU MEET!
  2. Collaborations - Does anyone in your city sing? Any one at your local church, highschool or youth program? Getting together to sing happy birthday to a friend in town and recording it on social media. Coming together to record a duet and selling it for a local charity. Come together with your community, see how you can help each other and collaborate. You will introduce them to your audience and they will introduce you to theirs all from collaboration. Get creative. Collaboration is fun. Sing and write with pals and create a wider reach! Learn more about writing here. 
  3. Create Events Around Your Talent - Maybe the recreation center needs help creating a fun basket ball tournament. Perhaps your school wants to put together a panel discussion for parents. Maybe your church wants to have a womens empowerment luncheon. Come up with awesome community events and then BOOK YOURSELF AS THE LIVE ENTERTAINMENT! Sing the anthem at the game! Sing the school song at the parents event. Don’t be shy! Host local events! Set up a mailing list sign up sheet at the door. People love fun gatherings! Create them, be the special guest and make new friends! 
  4. Mentor & Teach at Home - Are you awesome at the guitar? Do you have a special understanding for stage presence? How about choreography? Share your gift with others by teaching them how to perfect theirs. Establishing yourself as an expert in your field will show people you’re serious about your offering and you do it well. Plus, you’ll make a little extra cash to support your dreams!
  5. Do Events In Your City - Weddings, Birthdays, Club Hosting, Event Hosting! There’s so much going on all the time and if you’re brave enough to ask, people are always looking for talented singers and hosts to perform and entertain. Post up in your church bulletin that you’re available. Post on your local coffee shop wall. Get it out there that you’re excited to share, don’t get stuck on price and have some fun in your community!

These are five ways to get your city excited about you! I’ve done each of these things. I hope this blog post helps you feel a little less intimidated about building a buzz in your city. Remember to stay consistent in your endeavors. Small things add up to big things but they happen one thing at a time. 

Remember in following the steps:

  • Consistency is key
  • Have a positive attitude
  • Have fun

These pointers may seem simple, but as you follow the above steps to success, you’ll soon realize how much motivation you’ll need to have in order to stay focused. If you have a terrible time staying motivated all by yourself, consider joining the 2018 Indie Artist Coaching program that begins this fall!

If you're looking for more ways to push your music career to the next level, take a look at our newest course "Authentic Songwriting". It begins May 21st and we are sure it will fill up quickly!

Fun Facts about how I’ve used these same five techniques to share with my community:

  • I wouldn’t be where I am today without open mics. Performing weekly at the local open mics. Watching other artists perform was life a free college course. It’s also how I found many people to create with. I made lifelong musical friends and even booked my very first big show date thru connecting with another another artist. 
  • I taught dance lessons thru high school and college. 
  • I’ve collaborated with friends in college and then again after finally becoming a major recording artist. Those same college friends became my catalyst to becoming a signed act to begin the trajectory of my career.
  • As a New Yorker, my team and I would book big time talent to perform at big clubs in the city. As a lesser known artist, we would insert my name on the bill as an opening act. That’s how I positioned myself as a New Yorker and a person who belonged in the hip hop space. Later I was invited on stages with everyone from Jay Z to Rick Ross.
  • One of my most favorite things I’ve ever done (and still do) is mentorship. It’s rewarding and it keeps me learning from my students as I hear their concerns and share in showing them what I know. 
  • I still perform as a host for fun local events. Sports games in my city, school gatherings nearby, panel discussions in town. I’m always happy to entertain a local crowd and share my more personable side. It’s awesome to be an artist, but it’s more important for people to be happy about your presence in a room. Love people and be loved.

I hope this blog helped! Which of the five ideas resonated the deepest with you? Comment Below!

Happy Learning, 

Chrisette Michele